Life Info

Starting today, I will be posting little things I have learned in life that MAY be useful to people.  I call these "Life Info."  Today's little tidbit is:

At around age 38-41, people go through a time where they feel restless, frustrated with the path their lives are going, and they feel a huge urge to make sudden and drastic changes such as leaving their spouse, changing their careers, buying or selling a house or stocks, divorcing, having a baby, having an affair with a younger person, moving to a completely new place, etc. The problem is, when they DO make those sudden huge changes, in about three of four years that restless feeling will evaporate and they will be stuck with the mess they created. They will regret making those changes badly and the people they affected will still be hurt or damaged (especially their kids if they have any) by the rash choices the 38-41 year-old made. During the years between ages 38 and 41, it is better to make small changes to help alleviate that frustrated feeling and to ride out those strong urges because when the feelings pass, the foundations (your marriage, your career, your children, your portfolio) will be intact and you will be glad you didn't do the rash actions then.

This doesn't mean you should not make changes, just make sure you can live with them if that restless feeling goes away and make sure your family won't be damaged by the choices you make. In short, THINK before making a huge life change and make sure you think of EVERYONE in your life who may be affected by that choice BEFORE you make it.  Also, can you reverse it?  Did you want to do it before the restless feeling came on you?  If not, then err on the side of caution; make small changes instead.

Hope this helps someone.